Searching for my genie.

What do you do when u have an opinion about someone you've just had a patch up with???? Confront the person??? Talk about it to someone else, may be your best friend????

The above questions might have made no sense to you at all. Let me give you a background of what happened. I had a terrible row with someone I know. 'Twas a huge row and it took some real ugly turns. The initial cause of the row was completely the other person's fault cos of some perception problems. I tried my best to stay out of it all, but got pulled into it. I came out of it eventually, but not without giving a strong piece of mind to the other person.

Time passed, and my "friend" realised(?) his/her mistake and wanted to patch up. It was real tough to patch up after all that passed between us. But guess Christ gives you strengths you never realised you had. Then things started to move ahead between the two of us. I started to slowly iron out the creases.

And then all of a sudden, one day I get a mail which has indications of backbiting by that "friend" of mine. This was not explicitly stated.

I am now in a fix as to whether I should confront my friend or let it lay. If the information is incorrect, my confrontation can lead to strained relations once again, and this time it being my mistake, which is totally not acceptable to me.

Or, should I discuss my thoughts with my very good friend of mine. I'm scared to do that, cos it can result in my friend having a prejudice against the other person, which would be a very wrong thing to do.

Or, I wish I had a genie in a magic lamp. He could just jump into my friend's mind and get all the needed information out for me. (Yeah, I watch a lot of the Alladin cartoons.) Oh!! How I wish this could come true. But till then I'll have to be content with telling the whole world about it and hope (again!!!) that this causes no harm.

Did you attend his marriage???

Last week I heard one of my friends make a statement "I'm going to my friend's marriage".

I realise that I've heard this statement a lot of times earlier but had never given much thought to it. Now when I think of it, I wonder how can you attend a person's marriage? :-S You only attend 'the social event at which the ceremony of marriage is performed', a.k.a, The Wedding.

Marriage on the other hand, is the state of being a married couple. It is a state that is for life (or in our current social setup, until divorce). So how can you attend a person's marriage? Hmmm... I know I will surely attend (or be a part of) only my marriage, not everyone's.


Talking of marriages reminds me of all the groom finding circus happening at home for me. See the guy, talk to him and decide in 5 minutes or may be 15, if he is the person you want to spend your life with. I'm a nincompoop and can't even decide if a shade suits me in, 5 minutes, and now I need to choose a life partner in as much time. All my friends who've found their better halves say, you will just know when it happens. Interesting!!! However, all of them strongly mention that there no bells or sax in the background though. :) Well... Well... Wouldn't that have been something convenient. No hullabaloo about whether it is a right decision or not. :D

Guess, till I actually experience the feeling of "I know you are the person for me" feeling, I'll have to put on hold all my apprehensions and enjoy the moment. Being on an interview panel is not a daily job for me. So I could as well relish the encounters in store, till the finale.